I’ve heard it said that your hair is your Crown Of Glory.
But sometimes I feel like it’s a beast that resides upon my head. Seriously.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t leave my hair in a jumble of tangles all the time, though I’m sure my hair would love if I would just LEAVE IT ALONE!!
I have the
Amazing, Wonderous, Incredible, Joy, burden… of curly hair. How this happened, I have no idea… My brothers and I all have it.
We were young here…like 9 years ago young. Such a happy group…now my brothers have respectable hair cuts.
My theory is that God only picks the most brave and valiant of heart and spirit to carry the burden of curly hair.
OOORRRR….. It’s what happens when you have a mom with very kinky African hair, and a dad with very straight, baby soft hair. I’m not sure which….
So I have struggled with most of my life with this curly hair. And when I was younger, like 5-11 years old I didn’t have curly hair! It was thick and wavy and very
naughty, knotty. My mom would spend HOURS coming out the rat nest on my head. And I don’t know if your mom ever combed your hair out, but when ever my mom, and specifically my mom, would start to comb my hair it felt like she was ripping out my hair!! I don’t know why it was always like this but it was! And it was only her. Anyone else and it was fine, but as soon as she touched it with a brush! Forget it!
After 27 years though, I think I’ve got a pretty good system down. Kind of…sort of…maybe… I’M TRYING OK!!!?
When people ask me about my “beautiful curly” hair, it usually goes like this:
This last weekend I had a very nice lady ask me how I did my hair, and I realized there is a lot of things I do.
First let me say these 2 things that I believe not everyone realizes:
And most frustratingly for me is:
I say this all the time. There is no guarantee that what I did the day before will work again. And it’s probably good odds that when I DO have a good hair day, I’m not leaving the house.
So here is a quick run down of what I have done and achieved better hair results in return. But honestly take this with the understanding that this process works about 80% of the time to get it to do what I want.
1. Curly hair is inherently dry. It is always looking for moisture, not outside moisture and humidity which can totally frizz your hair out. I’m talking “my hair has had a nice glass of water to drink” moisturized. (So to speak)
2. In that respect, No more shampoos! Shampoos strip my hair of the very little moisture it already has! So no more!
There are products called “No-poo” designed by a company called….something that starts with a D….wait it’ll come to me…..ya never mind, I’ll post it when I remember. All I know is it’s expensive!
3. When I do need to cleanse my scalp I use 2 Tbs. baking soda mixed with enough water to make a paste (Massage and rinse out). Followed by 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar, fill the rest of the cup with water and use as a 2nd rinse
Do every other day. Or whenever…I do it like once a week.
4. Conditioner! Its job is to hydrate your hair! Use it! The important thing to remember is not to rinse it all the way out. I put it on my hair at the beginning of my shower, and leave it to the end, then partual rinse it out so my hair is still slick feeling. As for the type…what ever you can get really.
I guess this is true of me, but it’s more like I don’t remember what I even used the month before. So I just look for something that is super hydrating.
5. Micro-Fiber towel. I always use one now, it’s like hand sized, just for my hair. I take it when I travel too, because one terry cloth towel on my hair=2 months of breakage. Think I’m joking!? I’m not.
The micro-fiber doesn’t catch my hair and break it so I no longer have fly away’s that are always sticking out of my hair causing this fuzzy halo. I SERIOUSLY HATE THAT! It pretty much has made me want to shave my head, and was part of the reason I went so short with my hair.
6. Gel. I use to use moose. But gel is better.
7. Blow Dry. Some people say no to this but I really have to. Flip my head upside down and dry it. Especially the roots or else my scalp gets itchy, and the ends so they don’t drip all over my clothes. Get a diffuser attachment if you are worried about it.
8. No Hair Brushes or Combs. I used to believe the lie that certain brushes would work for curly hair. LIES!!!! There is no such brush. I have not brushed my hair in over a year. I rarely get knots, probably from all the conditioner that slicks them out.. and if I do get one I just carefully rip it out. Yeah, you heard me…RIP.
In summary, I’ve stuck with that basic routine for about a year and half and have better than I ever thought possible results. Nothing perfect yet…
This is Just so you get an idea here is what it looks like in the morning.
Yes so lovely I know…And that is with having my hair in a bun all night. I shudder at what it might look like if I actually left it down when I slept…. *shudder*
(Make up not part of the routine, but definitely helps)
After that routine it usually looks like this. And no my hair is not all the way dry here. I blow dry it to take the edge off and try to let it air dry the rest of the way. Or else I’ll be in there with the hair dryer for 2 hours…no lie.
Well One day I decided to throw it all away for the glory of this!!
And it only took 2 hours!! And seriously.. Layers…
It lasted for abut 4 hours before it got so crazy frizzy that I had to pull it into a pony tail anyway.
It also showed me that though my AWFUL cutting job on my hair in the past is well covered by my curls, they are SOO apparent when I straighten it.
Looks like I took a dull knife to it in the dark….
So I’m back on my routine… it’s working so far. even if I do leave it pinned up most of time…my hair seriously thick and hot!
So if you have curly hair let me know what you do or use that brings you success!?
Or if you learned anything here today!
And if you try any of these tricks, let me know how it works for you!
And if you don’t have curly hair, well…you can tell me anything you want I guess…I’ve got nothing….really…